Handling Confrontation...

The one thing we would all like to avoid. Confrontations are never easy. They can ruin relationships, hurt emotions, get you arrested and various other unfortunate outcomes. As a maturing young woman I'm seeing this as a major issue, that we all deal with. What is the proper way to handle a confrontation?! I'm far from a fighter so that's never an option. However, I am a debater and I know how to defeat my opponent. Although, I've found that my desire is never to hurt another but to have my view understood or considered. What I've found is that some people argue for the sake of being right and some argue for the sake of reconciliation. For the complications that come along with confronting another may attempt to avoid it. That never helps it only adds onto the issue because you are then building up hostility. Its true that hurt people hurt people BUT this does not have to be the case. I've found that they key to reconciliation is not being right or having the other party to agree with you but rather to compromise. Agree that yes their feelings are real to them and yours are as well. If you truly care about reconciliation its just that, reconcile not obtaining a victory. What is my desired outcome? That's what we should consider when handling confrontations. *spread the luve*